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I wish we could’ve captured the picture of my daughter, wife and I when the ultrasound technician said, “there’s baby #1.”  We had no idea that we were expecting twins and I remember driving home thinking, “man, this is going to be an adventure.”  Little did I know.

When our boys were about 26 months, I remember leaving another office with my wife after an appointment confirming our suspicions that our twins were autistic.  Now, life wasn’t only an adventure, but it just got a little more interesting.  One of the most commented on posts that I’ve done had an interview that my wife did for Fox News on raising autistic children – you can check it out here.

I am no expert nor am I in any way qualified to speak on autism but. . . .this is our journey from a dad’s perspective.  I don’t have a ton of answers but sometimes life isn’t about finding the answers but rather, living the experiences day to day.  Not many dad’s get to spend time at home with their kids and for at least this year, I’ll have that opportunity.  I feel like I was a bystander to their first four years. . . .now, I am living it day to day and it has truly been eye opening for me.

Angry Birds!

Angry Birds!

My only goal with this blog is that if you are up late at night looking for experiences with autism and learning more about “what life is like” helping children with it, that you’ve found a blog that provides you with some insight to your questions. . . . and helps you sleep easier.

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  1. Thanks for the comment – I love your blog too! I’m just starting out. My goal is the same as yours – to maybe be that place that someone discovers when they are feeling down and need a laugh or to know there is someone else out there in a similar situation. I look forward to reading your posts!! If you have any advice for me, please let me know. God bless!!

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  2. Sounds like we are all on the same path. Sharing our stories is a great way to reach out to others.
    It’s good to know, we’re not alone.
    cheers,
    Anna

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  3. Ragga said:

    Thank you for your warm comments on my blog (http://familyandautism.com) earlier – I’ve been reading up a bit on your blog and really like what I see. It is so nice to hear about the challenges, but more importantly the victories of others who’re dealing with similar issues. I will be following you…

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    • Thanks for the comment. While there’s always things that don’t go the way we’d like, there’s so much to celebrate as well. I hope to keep that theme throughout my blog. . . . . as my twins are fighting right now. 🙂

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  4. Wonderful to find a blog with the dad’s perspective. Beautiful new family photos. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Thanks! Your last post ‘Wounded Healer’ was very deep – great post and very thought provoking.

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  5. I have to commend what you are doing! I want my blog to help awareness and help bring about understanding of what we and our children go through. I wish I had the guts to post my pictures but I keep it a little anonymous for my children’s sake. Keep up the good work and Thank You for liking my blog! 🙂

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    • Thanks for visiting! Yeah – my wife and I are always hesitant (and still are) about posting pictures of our kids but. . . . we’ll see. You got a great blog!

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      • Thank You!! If there is ever anything you would like to hear about please ask! Your family is Beautiful!

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  6. Thank you for the like on my journal- I’ve been reading yours tonight and it’s always reassuring and comforting to know that there are others walking this path. Your boys are beautiful (so is your daughter!) and it sounds like your family is doing a wonderful job!

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  7. NewMamma said:

    Thank you for liking my recent post–Monday Morning Thoughts. I look forward to reading more about your Wunderful Life!

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  8. dearfriends said:

    Thanks for visiting and allowing me to follow your bread crumbs back to this awesome blog! Thank you for sharing and keeping “the bigger picture” in the forefront. It is all about relationship. Your family’s patience and respect for each other is wonderful. Thank you for sharing–Barb

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    • Thanks for visiting! My friend and I were having a discussion about problems at schools (he’s a school psychologist) and about how more attention needs to be paid to what is taught at home. Schools can only SUPPORT what’s taught in the home. Loved your post and thoughts!

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  9. Nice to meet you. I will look forward to reading your story. Thank you for sharing it and mahalo for your warm and caring perspective. Aloha…..

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  10. Hi there, thanks for dropping in on my blog. I’ve been doing the same with yours. It’s lovely to read of your family’s adventures – you have a great flow to your writing making it an easy, enjoyable read and uplifting as well! I’m in…

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    • Thanks for visiting as well! Loved the red ukulele in your last post. 🙂

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      • Yes I love the music of the Pacific so the uke is a great place to start for a little guy.

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  11. tailz84 said:

    Hi! Am very interested to find out a dad’s views! Am humbled when I read that your boys were autistic. Whenever I read stories similar to yours, I will be humbled in the sense that you guys are really brave and all. It also reminds me not to take things for granted! Anyway, I hope all the lessons, therapies will help your boys relate to you better and better each day! Best wishes and look foward to more of your thoughts!

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    • Thanks so much for reading and for the comment. I think dad’s tend to internalize things more yet we still look for advice and help in our ‘own way.’ I hope at least sharing what we are doing and what the boys are learning helps others. Thanks for visiting!

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  12. Your blog should be very interresting for me… I am a family support worker/Applied behavioral analysis therapist and with that of course comes the play therapist! I love my job!

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    • Hah hah – well thanks for visiting and for the comments! Hope you like it and glad to hear YOU LOVE YOUR JOB! That’s awesome

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  13. Lisa said:

    Thanks for your comment today! I came over and enjoyed reading about your boys…I think I’ll stick around…can’t wait to read more about your adventures. 🙂

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    • Thanks for visiting! It’s been great for me to get to read about everyone’s experiences and realize that while most of our friends and surrounding neighbors don’t face some of the things we do, there’s a community here that does! Appreciate your post and see you around. 🙂

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  14. Hi! you commented on my blog a few days ago. I also have twins on the spectrum, dx at age of 2. I found it odd that at the time (they are almost 16 now), I couldn’t find anyone with twins both affected. I so desperately wanted someone to talk to. And having another just 11 months older, well, our house was truly a walk on the wild side. I will be following your blog–if the picture is your boys, they are adorable! Hope it was a great time!

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    • Thanks for stopping by ~ I’m gonna be visiting your blog to read up on your boys since they are older than mine so you are farther along in your ‘journey.’ I could imagine how ‘wild’ your house was – don’t you miss it? 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by!

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      • Thanks! In some ways I do miss the young years (although not in all ways). If you go to the beginning of my blog I tell more about the beginning. Photography was a lot easier then because you could snap shots that weren’t posed. When they hit about 14 they started running from me when I had a camera. We’ve only just now started getting over that. So I’ve picked up the camera again. Two are really interested in photography, the third not so much. He’s the one that tends to run from the camera or make goofy faces. 🙂 It’s good to meet you!

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        • Good to meet you too~! I’ll read up on your blog and kiddos. I hear you on the ‘run from the camera’ – we get that a lot.

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  15. Thanks so much for visiting my page! I really do appreciate the support!

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  16. Rich said:

    Thanks for stopping by. It will be nice to see another dad’s views on raising kids on the spectrum.

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  17. jorbin said:

    Thanks for liking my post. Appreciate it. We all take different paths but it is the same journey.

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  18. metalmommy said:

    Thanks to you for liking my post! As the general sentiment goes, we are all in this together. 🙂

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  19. maaggs7 said:

    Thanks for the like, I have a brother with Aspergers and I was totally unaware of this whole blogging community! will be starting my exploration now 😉

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  20. Edith said:

    Thanks for sharing your experiences. We need more men to speak up regarding issues at home. So I’m very blessed to hear your story. May this blog continue blessing other families!

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  21. introvertedblogger said:

    Goodness, what an adventure you are on, and I love that you call it such. I love your blog.

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  23. seekraz said:

    Hello there – I saw that you visited my blog and “liked” today’s post…”Toys as Tools”…something that you’re probably quite familiar with, given the content of your own blog. I enjoyed browsing through your posts…reading your stories and experiences.

    Thank you for visiting with me…I wish you well with your journey.

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    • Thanks for stopping by as well and thanks for the great post

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      • seekraz said:

        You’re very welcome…and thank you, too. 🙂

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  24. Thanks for the like; glad to find you here and will be spending some time catching up – J.

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      • Can’t go wrong with Calvin. Also have good luck posting obscure Simpsons pictures from the early 1990s. Thanks again for stopping by

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  26. Thanks for liking my post about special kid and thanks for your sharing about your special kids in this blog, really blessing !

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  27. Thanks for the like and visit – encouragement is wonderful just now 🙂

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    • I had no idea they have blogger awards but THANK YOU VERY MUCH!

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  30. Here is a link which explains a little. http://versatilebloggeraward.wordpress.com/. Basically you write a post thanking the person who nominated you with a link to their blog then you pick 15 blogs you like and nominate them–in a nutshell! Copy the button to your sidebar as an image widget and include in your post. I think that’s it…

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  31. Thanks for liking my post. I can relate to your journey with twins, I only have one of my twins with special needs, your journey is a lot more complex. Keep up the good work 🙂

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  32. progressivenectar said:

    Thanks for liking our post. We look forward to keeping up with your journey. If you ever need Gluten-free recipes, we post every week at progressivenectar.com supporting culinary inspiration for families with food sensitivities. A new library format launches May/June 2012 for our users. Keep sharing your story as it helps so many people! It is wonderful to hear a father’s perspective!

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    • Great stuff on your blog. We had our boys on a gluten free diet for most of last year. We’ve kept to most of it – their homelunch today was all fruit, some veggies (which will be returned untouched) and some mixed protein. Diets are so important so thank you for what you guys do!

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  33. thank you for visiting my blog….it is so great to meet a warrior dad!….the more we share the more we reach others…..and hopefully bring more comfort to the world. you guys are all beautiful. God bless you.

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    • Thank you as well! It’s been inspirational and very therapeutic for me to hear everyone’s stories online. Thanks for sharing

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  34. Neil N said:

    Thanks for visiting — good to find a few more fellow autism dads in the blogging world.

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  35. Thank you for visiting my blog (myautisticmusloimchild) I love what I see here. I been in touch with dads of ASD kids. I hope you give a voice to many other dads, and give encouragements to the ones who left their family thinking there are better things for them somewhere else. I hope your blog will show some dads that they have to be part of the family and all children needs both of their parents. Please keep up your work, and God bless your whole family.

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    • Thank you very much – I loved the recent post you did about choosing between siblings and friends – I think we as parents know that we travel a different journey than parents without ASD kids but I know that I overlook the journey my daughter goes through as well – appreciated your thoughts and reminder. Aloha

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  36. jo said:

    hey, thanks for the likes!
    your boys are adorable, i wish them all the best for everything in the future… 🙂
    its great to see a dad blog about autism, its a rare but welcome find.

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    • Thank you very much! It’s therapeutic for me really and it’s great to find a community online that is on the same journey. Thanks for visiting!

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  37. Thanks for your like on my post. And congratulations on a fantastic blog, what a great resource for other parents going through similar experiences with autistic children. There are so many parenting blogs out there so it’s great to see one that shares insights into your unique parenting experience. I wish you all the luck in the world with your beautiful family.

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    • Thank you very much! Hope the resources come in helpful. I’ve picked up a ton of ideas from other blogs so hope to pass on things that work for us. Thanks for visiting!

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    • That’s so nice of you guys – I’ll have to check out the award when I get on my computer at home! MAHALO for stopping by!

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