My wife and I had a conversation the other night about how ‘literal’ our boys see things and view the world. We have fabulous friends up the street who have an older boy (11 yrs old) who is autistic and they have him mainstreamed. She has shared some of the growths . . . struggles . . .triumphs . . . and challenges they’ve had along the way. Sidenote – this is a really amazing family and I’ve noticed how thoughtful and considerate they are of others . . . great examples for me! 🙂
Anyway, our daughters are on the same soccer team and they’ve started the spring schedule with two tough games and really got smashed both games . . . . . though they did win today 5-0 so it’s either hit or miss with our team. Our friends mom, A mentioned that her daughter (let’s call her “C” for this post) felt ‘deflated’ after the past game.
On hearing that, the autistic 11 yr old mentioned that, “yeah when ‘C’ (sister) was a baby, she was pretty chubby but she isn’t chubby anymore, huh?” Interesting how he understood ‘deflated’ and thought of it that since his sister is running around and exercising, she is losing weight versus how the moms were talking about it in terms of spirit and morale.
Got me thinking a lot about communication nuances and what it’ll be like when the boys get older and we have those types of nuances come up in their social conversations. There are simple ones now that come up that we explain and I’m not sure how much of it really comes across to the boys but I’m sure we’ll have some fun ones along the way. I was extremely impressed that our 11-yr old friend had, on his own, thought through what “deflated” meant and how it could possibly relate to this situation and had made a very good inference to it’s meaning. That was fantastic to see!
Have any you’d care to share?