I learned in college about Hofstede’s Cultural Dimensions and how different cultures have different views on time, collective versus individual group dynamics, etc. Even though I’m Japanese Hawaiian and Japanese are very punctual, it seems the Hawaiian / Polynesian in me writes this blog since I’m always running behind! Anyway, Happy New Year to you and yours and the best for a great 2013.
One of my goals with this blog was to post material that I found helpful or insightful with our children. Here’s a recent powerpoint onToilet Training / Eating Issues that was presented at one of our recent parent trainings.
I’m going to put in a DISCLAIMER here that this is material presented to me by educators who work with my twins. If anyone wants me to take it down, please let me know. Also, these methods and techniques may or may not work for every little one.
OK, honestly, I was gone much during the potty training phase so it isn’t something I remember but my wife will tell you that NOT having a bathroom on our main floor gave her great exercise lugging one or both of the twins up and down a flight of stairs each time they had to go to the bathroom.
A few thoughts from the presentation and the training in general:
1) Consistency is always the key. I mentioned in past posts that when I’m lazy and let the boys get away with things (too much tv, too much wii, etc) then it’s harder for me to break that habit later. This happened with our afternoon time and trying to get them to do an ‘assignment’ before they ran off to play Mario Kart.
2) Use of a Timer: We have a couple around our house and I remember my wife setting them and when it went off, she would march the boys to the bathroom . . . . .even if they didn’t have to go. This was a great start and got them in the habit of going every so often.
3) Remain Neutral When Accidents Occur: OK – so this is a problem for me. We fought the stomach flu a couple of weeks back and what I hadn’t realized was that both of the boys had probably gone 2-3 years without throwing up. When the first one happened, I freaked out more than I should’ve which didn’t help the situation. . . . . I was better the second (and third) times around. Fortunately, both boys now recognize the symptoms and look for ‘the bucket’ when they feel a wave of nausea coming.
4) Visual Schedule: These can be a pain to make, but it helps quite a bit. My boys still refer to their after school schedule and it’s helped alleviate a ton of headache and bad expectations
The last few slides are on eating plans and how the classes work with ‘different’ foods at the cafeteria. I was pretty intrigued.
One of our focuses this next year is to have more friends over. We had a few chances during the holidays and for the most part, things went well! It helped that we had a foot of snow outside so we could build snowmen, go sledding, etc. The boys are getting better at remembering names and also, associating friends with the ‘activities’ they come over for. For example, they have “piano friends” who come over for piano. They had a bday party they attended last week and are heading to another one this weekend so that’s awesome to see.
Wishing the best to you and yours in 2013!