What a week! First, congratulations to my wife, siblings ,and friends for finishing the Wasatch Back Ragnar Run! It’s a bittersweet weekend for me ~ the kids and I survived 48 hours without mommy (I should put that as our week’s accomplishment) but one of my goals over the past year was to run Ragnar.
I was on track until I blew my knee and still haven’t attempted to run since my injury. Hoping to run in 2013! Second, to all you dad’s out there ~ hope you had a fantastic Father’s Day! Third, I got two blog award nominations but to properly thank the wonderful people who nominated me, I’ll wait until my next post since this is a busy post!
Fourth, it was my wife’s birthday earlier in the week. The boys have been very excited to celebrate her birthday and were talking all week about cake, ice cream, presents, and candles! Happy bday to my awesome wife!
Accomplishments: We’ll recognize Twin B this week. We had an end of year assessment with his teacher and it’s been amazing to see the progress he has made ~ a special recognition to his teacher and her amazing team that we will miss tremendously and have done so much for Twin B. For example, his pre-writing testing showed an improvement from a 1yr 10mo level in September of last year to 4 yrs 3 mo level currently! I don’t think we can ever thank his teacher and all of these great individuals who do so much for our kids and our family.
A second accomplishment was his chart completion and his Chart Party Reward! In a previous post, I put a picture of him at the beginning of this chart and we’re so happy to see he’s finished it! He was SO EXCITED as he got closer and closer to completion.
Finally, we had a city carnival this weekend. Crowds aren’t our favorite so we thought we’d try the carnival out early Friday afternoon. We were one of the first 20 people in and were even able to stay over 4 hours! I was impressed the boys did so well waiting in line, dealing with crowds, and even going on a number of the rides! They were in heaven and I’m glad we took a chance at the carnival! Slideshow below has all the previous pics + Carnival ones mashed up.
Tip of the Week: OK, so this chart idea has been great for us ~ both boys use it currently at school and I noticed one in each class at their new school. I wasn’t using the chart correctly but we got some guidance so hopefully, this makes sense and I’m explaining it right:
- A “chart move” is earned and usually discussed with the child beforehand. For example, “Twin B, we can do a chart move if you empty your lunch box in the sink”
- We praise our twin that is doing the task towards the move versus using ‘negative reminders’ or threats to remove the chart move from the one not doing the task. i.e “Great job Twin B at working to your chart move, we’re almost done!”
- Again, don’t use the chart move as a threat. I did that a few times before really understanding it and noticed that when we didn’t award the chart move, we had massive breakdowns
- If you can’t reward the chart move, don’t make a big deal about it. Simply say something to the extent of, “we didn’t do that very well so we won’t do a chart move” and move on. My problem was I was focusing on it as a result of their behavior, which escalated the problem
- Use intermediate rewards on their chart sporadically, say every 5 moves, as a short term motivator
- If you have twins, don’t leave permanent markers by the chart. . . . there’s a good chance one will grab it and draw all over the other’s chart. Grrrr . . . . . . . .
Hope that helps! We have Angry Bird (go figure) charts in our kitchen for them and since they use it at school, it works well ~ I think the structure and task / goal focus really helps the twins focus on things. A bit of a longer post than usual (I try to say under 550 words) but it was a busy week! Have a good one!